Eric Resnick makes a living helping people make the most out of their online love seeking experience. Eric is the founder of ProfileHelper.com a site that has helped over 14,000 singles create the perfect online dating profile. Having consulted for top online dating sites like Match.com, PlentyofFish.com, and eHarmony.com I figured he would be a great resource to answer the questions guys have about online dating.
What in a guy's online profile is a massive turn off?
"There are so many things. Let's run down a list of the biggest problems:
1. Bad spelling/grammar - It makes you look less intelligent and like you don't care about what kind of impression you make.
2. Shirtless photos - Shirtless photos get more clicks, but fewer swipes and messages. Some women might like to look, but they don't really respect a guy who thinks that the only way women will pay attention is if he shows off his 8-pack.
3. Flexing photos - I'm not talking about muscles, I'm talking about possessions. Leave your obvious signs of wealth out of the photos. It makes you look insecure and like you have nothing to offer other than money. It also makes a lot of women think you are overcompensating for a tiny package.
4. Photos with women/ with women obviously cropped out - The focus in your photos should be on you. Don't make women waste energy trying to figure out who the hot blonde standing next to you is, or who is attached to the bit of hair or hand that goes with the obviously cropped out woman.
5. Don't focus on what you find physically attractive in your profile. The wrong women don't care and the right women will think you are being too superficial. Just focus on the type of person you want to meet, not what they should look like.
6. Don't sell to them - Don't try to convince a woman she should like you with her profile. It makes you seem needy and insecure. There's no need to tell someone how honest and loyal you are. You are supposed to be both of those things already.
7. Don't go negative/ don't talk about your ex - Every time you mention something you don't want in your profile, you are also saying "because that's why my ex and I broke up." It makes it sound like you are still working through things and aren't ready for something new. Also, don't talk about the mother of your children. If you have kids, it's assumed that they have a mother. She doesn't belong in your dating profile."
What in a guy's online profile makes you want to get to know him better?
1. "Give them cake, not just the recipe - don't just list qualities about yourself, tell little stories that give them context. Don't just tell them you like adventure, tell them about how you nearly died in your first Tough Mudder. Don't tell them you have a kind heart, tell them about how you volunteer at the shelter walking dogs who need a home. Chocolate, Eggs, and Flour are fine, but bake the cake for best results.
2. Be honest and upfront about your relationship goals - Women want to know what you want and they don't want to waste their time on a guy who isn't looking for the same thing as them.
3. Don't tell them what you think they want to hear - Just be yourself. Not everyone is going to like you, but that's the way its supposed to be! Write a profile that talks about you and the actual type of partner you want. Don't write a profile that tries to get as much attention as possible.
4. Keep it positive - Women are more attracted to men who are optimistic and forward-looking. No one wants to be stuck with someone who can't get out of his own way. Keep your profile positive and upbeat and people will see you as the type of man they'd like to be with.
5. Avoid all the things we mentioned in the profile turn-offs. If you are doing any of those things that we already mentioned, fix them right now and you'll start seeing better results immediately.
These tips should help you make more connections with your online dating profile, let us know in the comments down below some of your favorite tips, or what has/hasn't worked for you. Also for more tips, information, to learn more about what Eric does visit www.ProfileHelper.com.
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